I’ve lived in a different country than my parents for nearly 15 years. Having moved away for studies, I continued for work and have yet to return.
At first, it was fabulous. It gave me room to explore without boundaries. I could discover the values that I learned and wanted to take with me, and the ones that didn’t fit with the World view that I wanted to carry with me.
It’s allowed me to explore the physical World too. New countries, new cultures and make friends from all over. Perhaps something that will resonate with a few other from southern Europe - it’s also allowed me to explore opportunities that I wouldn’t be able to if I had stayed. Stagnant economies and austerity have robbed many of my peers of a future better than their parents’.
So everything is pretty great, right? …right?
If you’re also an expat, living in a foreign country. Contemplating growing new roots or mending old ones. You’ve experienced first hand how being far from family is not something that gets easier as time goes by. In fact, it becomes a lot harder, since time is not on your side.
How much of ourselves should we give to those we love and how much must we betray them to grow up?
What about when parents, uncles, grandparents are aging. How do we help them age at home, independently, and safely?
Hey reader - what is your story?
What are some of the biggest challenges for you in being far away from your aging loved ones and what have you done to overcome them?